Life

Rebranding and Other Missives

The golden retriever is Cece and the border collie puppy is Pepper 💜

Do you know how many times I’ve started typing and then immediately deleted what I wrote? I’m not really sure where this post is going, and I can’t believe it’s been almost two years since my last post 😳 A lot has happened in that time, so I suppose some updates are in order 😂

We got a puppy! Her name is Pepper and she is a border collie mix. Prepare to see a bunch of pictures of her, especially if you follow me on any of my social media (linked above, and all updated as of today 🤦🏻‍♀️) and just because I can:

First we eat, then we zooooooom!

I am, once again, a stay at home mama. I won’t talk about the specifics, but there was an ongoing bullying situation between Joey and one of my students (where my student was the bully, not Joey) and I strongly disagreed with the way their teacher and administration was handling it.

While I initially gave them the benefit of the doubt, it became clear that Joey was just expected to ignore the bullying despite it clearly escalating (mind you, Joey is in first grade, and the bullying included physical violence BEFORE I was let go), which I was absolutely not okay with. Once it became clear that I was not willing to just ignore the behavior from my student I was “no longer a good fit for the department,” and was let go the Friday before last Thanksgiving.

I have to say, I was absolutely gutted for a while. I did everything I was supposed to, including voicing my concerns multiple times to everyone I was supposed to about working with the student due to the optics of the situation, making sure that my behavior towards the student was fair and above board to avoid any accusations of mistreatment, and allowing Joe to handle the situation on Joey’s end to maintain a positive working relationship with everyone involved.

I took the last couple of months to focus on my mental health and being present with my family, and I have decided to put a pause on going back to school for the time being. I need time to decide if working in education is for me, and to be honest, I don’t think it is. I know that I only worked in one school and I shouldn’t let one bad experience impact me, but I was getting burnt out even before everything went down, and I didn’t like who I was becoming during the limited time I had with my family. Joe’s career is finally taking off, so I don’t NEED to work, which brings me to…

After a lot of thought (and tears, because I did put in a decent amount of work on it), I scrapped the book I’ve been trying to write for the better part of two decades and have started fresh. I’m simultaneously in the planning/outlining/brainstorming stage and the build my social media presence stage, so I would be absolutely honored if you’d take a look at my public social media links (they’re towards the top of this page, just under the header image) and give ‘em the old like & follow 💜 Once I have the basic story nailed down I’ll drop some hints, but it’s definitely going to be geared towards an adult audience, if you catch my drift 😉

As for the state of the world we live in, I feel my thoughts can be summed up in this:

Life

You May Have Noticed…

I’ll still show you the cool stuff he does, like this ❤

That Joey has apparently dropped off the face of the planet, which allow me to reassure you he has not. And no, I’m not going to stop talking about him, you’re just not going to see his pictures/videos anymore. And there’s a few reasons:

  1. His safety. There are sick people in this world, and we happened to encounter one a few weeks back that has shaken me to my core. He and I are okay, and the situation is being handled by the proper authorities, but I’m no longer comfortable sharing his pictures and videos on my public social media, and I hope you’ll respect the boundary by not asking me to change my mind, as my decision is final. And while I treasure all of you, my private social media is for people I know “in real life,” so I won’t be adding anyone as a friend from here. I hope you understand.
  2. His consent. I’ve been mulling this one over for a while and it wasn’t brought on by like a specific event or anything, but I want him to understand he does not have to consent to anything he does not want to, and that starts at home. And so, even if I did feel comfortable posting his pictures/videos, I would ask him if he was okay with it first. I’ve also started doing this with my private social media/conversations with friends and family as I feel strongly it’s up to him.
  3. And so far below the first two reasons is my final (and completely selfish) reason, posting family pictures isn’t really where I want to take my content anymore as I want to shift towards my personal interests, mainly sharing my journey towards health, developing as a writer, and becoming a teacher. He’s a huge part of my life (obviously, I hope), so I’m sure he’ll still come up, and I’ll occasionally do life updates, but I’m getting to the point where I want to get away from that style of writing as my go-to, ya know?

I hope you understand this has nothing to do with y’all and everything to do with me doing what I can to protect my family physically, mentally, and emotionally. The pictures I have left up of Joe are ones he’s said he’s okay with me sharing, and I’m probably going to be a lot more selective about the pictures I post of myself as well. I’ve turned off comments and the like as I’m not really interested in debating about this publicly, but if you absolutely MUST tell me your opinion on the matter, the contact page is available. Just please remember, contact page rules still apply.

Thirty Days of Gratitude

Gratitude Day 14

This is one of my favorite photos of just the two of us 😍

Day # 14: I know I said I was going to do “non traditional” things to be grateful for this year, but I want to shout out Joe, who works tirelessly to make sure I can stay home with Joey and who has been my fiercest supporter in pursuing the mental health help I need.

When I asked him if I could go on the retreat I’m on this weekend (praise Jesus for WordPress’s scheduling feature 😅) he didn’t even let me finish asking before saying I could go.

The Liz from 30 extra pounds ago has been screaming that I can’t pull a certain bathing suit off and I’m an idiot for even thinking I could. Hell, even current Liz is terrified she’s going to get made fun of for wearing it.

But not Joe. He’s seen the work I’ve put in, he’s seen the pounds fall off , and he more than willingly gives me the confidence I need while my brain catches up. Even though I can’t quite see the changes to my body yet, I trust him more than my brain because that bitch has proven time and time again that she’s unreliable at best.

And aaaaaalllll that, plus so much more, is why I am grateful for my best friend, my partner in life, my sun moon and stars.